HAVE YOU MET THE ONE YOUR SOUL LOVES | KAIROS GLOBAL | PILOT ISSUE | 2017

Author : Sonia Kurian

Intro: “How many times have you wished for someone

who loves you for exactly who you are?"

Growing up in a traditional Catholic family, Iwas

very aware of God and my faith. However,

my idea of God was of someone who would wag

his finger at me every time I did something

wrong. He was a God that I feared, and thus

someone with whom I had no desire to cultivate

a relationship. I simply wanted to stay within

the lines, existing without causing any ripples

or giving God any reason to smite me. At some

point in my life, I fell in love with Him, The

Perfect Lover, One whose desire was for me. So,

you may be wondering, how did I finally move

from fear to love? I’d love for you to meet Him.

Let’s start at the beginning though, shall

we? Any movie fans in the house? How many

times have you watched a movie, let’s say with

Shahrukh Khan or Ryan Gosling, and seen this

hero who tries to win the girl’s heart over? How

many times have you wished for someone who

Have You Met The One i n f o c u s

loves you for exactly who you are? Someone

who would give up everything for you? Well I’ve

got good news for you, there is! A guy who sees

you all day when you look your best and, your

not-so-best, when you do things that you know

others would just not understand, when you’re

good and when you’re not so nice, and He loves

you just the same. My point is, that guy is…

drumroll please…. God!

A friend of mine says, the whole Bible is

the greatest love story ever told, and I have

to agree. It’s the story of a God who loves and

wants us so much, that He not only created us,

but also created a vast beautiful world for us.

A God who wanted us to be happy and so gave

us free will. Think about it, He is God and He

gave up His ability to control us and make us

love Him as much as He loves us? What human

being would give up a chance at love like that?

Not many, I’d imagine.

This God eventually was so hurt by what we

humans did with that free will that he decided

to take us to a promised land so maybe there

we’d be happier. Instead what did we do? We

couldn’t see past the petty things, like not

having great food, meat, and abundant water,

and yet, He didn’t give up. He put up with

us even as we complained after reaching the

Promised Land. We continued straying from

Him, when all He had done for us was to keep

His word

So, still in love with us, and trying to save

us at a point when most of us humans would

have lost patience and just given up, or reduced

everything to dust from sheer frustration, He

keeps trying by sending prophet after prophet

to beg us to come back to His love. He does all

of this to save our souls. God was not getting

anything out of this, but the pleasure of our

company in heaven, while we were the ones

with everything to lose. Of course, finally

realizing that nothing else was working, He sent

a part of Himself, His own heart and soul, so

that maybe if we saw His love incarnate, we’d

finally understand Him and love Him, and save

ourselves. How do we respond to this love on

earth? We kill Him. Still, He says, “No worries,

I’m still going to send you the Holy Spirit to

help you daily with your life, and here, I’ll even

give you mother Church to guide and support

you, and the sacraments to help you when

you fall so you can dust yourself off and keep

trying.”

After this entire epic love letter written to

us, what do we say in reply? We say, “No thank

you, not interested!” or “Ask me when I’m 60”

or “I have other things to do, like live a life!”

We are stubborn, tantrum throwing divas, who

while God is trying to rescue us from our own

distress, say “no” and continue to moan about

how bad our lives are. So, if you think you’ve

ever done this to God, do me a favor and smack

yourself in the face really quick. Ow! (Yes, I

just smacked myself too). Good, I imagine God

got a good laugh out of that (and He deserves

it, the poor guy). So now ask yourself all

those questions you were asking the heroine

in the movie. “Why don’t you like Him? He’s

amazing,” “Are you blind, can’t you see how

much He loves you?”

I once heard an analogy where you imagine

your heart to be a jigsaw puzzle. All the

different pieces are the different things in your

life – work, school, emotions, personalities,

wounds, addictions, etc. Now imagine a

piece in the center that is God, and all He is.

Now in the chaos that is life, sometimes we

misplace this piece, or sometimes we ignore

it altogether, and we end up with a hole in our

heart. Naturally, we want to fill this hole, so we

try everything, we try friends, family, parties,

drugs, alcohol, and even sex. But the catch

with a puzzle is that every piece is unique and,

you must get the piece that is of the same size

with the same outline as the hole, or it will

never fit, no matter how much you push and

shove. When we have a hole in our hearts from

misplacing our relationship with God, and not

realizing his love, nothing else can fill that

hole. Unfortunately, we could spend a lifetime

trying to shove other pieces into our hearts

to feel whole again, without turning into the

person who can resolve the matter. We look

everywhere in the world, but take decades

to realize the truth. St. Augustine stated it

perfectly, “You have made us for yourself, O

Lord, and our hearts are restless until it rests in

you”.

The story doesn’t end here though. This God

is still, to this day, knocking at our heart’s door,

asking us to open up for a minute and let Him

in. To let Him heal us and hold us as we cry, and

to let Him give us the peace, love, and joy we

crave in our daily lives. He is still waiting, day

in and day out, mass after mass, hour after hour

in Adoration, problem after problem, for you to

turn to Him, to just talk to Him. He is waiting

for us to finally open our eyes, and realize He

is the one. His love has been surrounding you

since the very beginning, and that love is the

only reason and answer for our lives. He has

no need to concern Himself with us for even

a millionth of a second, and yet He has been

there our entire life, listening to our every

complaint, whining, and prayer, while trying to

give us a reason to smile. He has been in love

with us before we even knew what that word

meant, and He is waiting for us to finally open

our eyes, for our hearts to go pitter patter, and

for us to open the door, so our lives will never

be the same again.

Have you fallen in love with Him yet?

Sonia Kurian currently works in Houston as a Clinical

Systems Analyst in the Healthcare sector.