EDITORIAL | KAIROS GLOBAL | FEBRUARY 2024

Author: Dr. Chackochan J Njavallil

Marriage: Some Musings 

Recently at a marriage, the priest's homily beautifully emphasised the essence of Catholic marriage, prompting thoughts about the numerous ceremonies and homilies I've experienced. It struck me that perhaps only Christians have this privilege of continuous reminders about the significance, mission, and practical aspects of marriage. While living up to these ideals isn't easy in societal contexts, these celebrations offer a unique chance for participants to be reminded, motivated, corrected, and inspired in embracing this special vocation. Are there other communities similarly blessed with such frequent opportunities for reflection?

In today's world, the family institution grapples with numerous challenges. Dysfunctionality is prevalent, many individuals lead unsatisfactory lives, and there's a lack of immediate answers or solutions to these issues.

As I prepared to attend a marriage, a sudden question came to me: ‘What do you intend by attending? Is it merely to enjoy the party, congratulate the newlyweds, and socialise with friends? What about participating in the sacrament and offering prayers for the couple?’ This prompting, I believe, came from the Holy Spirit. Consequently, I decided to engage in the sacred aspect of the celebration. I am committed to continuing this practice whenever possible.

Marriage, as a vocation, encounters numerous challenges unique to it. The task of harmonising the lives of two unique individuals, managing children with their diverse needs, makes it seem that only highly skilled and knowledgeable experts can navigate it satisfactorily. Surprisingly, despite its complexity, there's often little to no formal training or systematic preparation for this lifelong commitment.

Young families, particularly within nuclear family structures, encounter numerous challenges. We've fallen short in creating sufficient systems and mechanisms to ease their lives, particularly concerning childcare.

Many young adults hesitate or delay marriage, often due to a lack of relatable marital role models within their own circles. Various ideologies contribute to this trend, potentially harming the sanctity of marriage and family. Addressing this requires strategies to combat ideological influences. But where are the visionaries, philosophers, and leaders with plans to counter this assault on traditional values?

Certainly! Here are some musings on the institution of marriage and its importance, which warrant serious attention from all who care about it.