ASK FR BITAJU | KAIROS GLOBAL | DECEMBER 2023

Author: Fr Bitaju

Q69. Sometimes we lie to console others or to give temporary relief; is such kind of lying wrong?

Thanks for your significant question that seeks understanding whether lying can be justified in particular contexts and situations. According to the teaching of the Catholic Church, lying is considered to be morally wrong. The Eighth Commandment states, You shall not bear false witness against your neighbour (Exodus 20:16), which encompasses the broader concept of truthfulness and honesty. Further, Jesus said, You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free (John 8:32). 

The Catechism of the Catholic Church explains that lying is intrinsically evil because it undermines the very foundation of human relationships and violates the virtue of truthfulness (CCC 2482-2484). It states that lying is a direct offence against the truth, which is owed to others in justice. The truth is not only a moral obligation but also a requirement for authentic communication and genuine human interaction. 

However, it is possible that in certain situations where the intention behind the act of lying may mitigate the moral culpability. The Catechism recognises that there are cases where individuals may engage in what is called ‘mental reservation’ (CCC 2488). Mental reservation refers to withholding certain information or using ambiguous language to protect the truth or the rights of others when faced with unjust aggression or serious harm. 

In the specific situation you mentioned, where lying is done to console or provide temporary relief to someone, it is important to consider the intention behind the act. If the intention is to genuinely alleviate someone’s suffering or provide comfort, rather than to deceive or manipulate, the moral culpability may be mitigated. However, it is important to exercise prudence and discernment in such situations, as there may be alternative ways to provide support and consolation without resorting to falsehood. 

Ultimately, the Catholic Church encourages individuals to strive for truthfulness and honesty in their words and actions, even in challenging situations.  This commitment to truth is seen as essential for building trust, fostering genuine relationships, and ultimately living in accordance with the teachings of Christ. Open and honest communication, empathy, and genuine care for the other person’s well-being should guide our actions. 

YOUCAT 294 

Is someone a sinner if he experiences strong passions within himself?

No, passions can be very valuable. They are designed to lead to and reinforce good actions; only when they are disordered do the passions contribute to evil. 

Passions that are ordered to the good become virtues. They then become the motive force of a life of fighting for love and justice. Passions that overpower a person, rob him of his freedom and entice him to evil, we call vice.